Was chatting with my friend the other day regarding marriage. You see many people are getting married this year, making the baby booming years look like men/women getting a sex change operation; meaning rare but definitely coming up in trend.
Geeeez, whats wrong with you people. Not the marriage part but the sex change, I really can't imagine anyone with man boobies and don't start with putting images in my head you bloody bastards.
Anyways, then we somehow came across this subject:
'Men usually have no say in marriage cause most women controls how the wedding is like'
In a way it is true but not for everyone. For most women (totally biased opinion on my side), they like to be in control of their weddings cause they will always have their own picture of their perfect wedding and therefore of course no other opinions will be acceptable to them except maybe one or two differences. And some would want their wedding so spectacularly grand, it'll kill the guy even at the mere thought of mentioning it.
For us men however, we are ok with anything because we just want the marriage to be over with quick. Not because of the after enjoyment a.k.a sex (not most of the time) but also we just can't bear to see so much money going down the drain in a matter of 2-3 days.
And so, we are usually the relaxed ones and women will be all stressed up. My point here is that, although most men would really want to help with the preparation of the marriage, women here do not trust us enough to even lay a hand into it because they think we'll screw it up.
And they say marriage is where 2 becomes 1....
Me: Marriage is overrated!
She: I find marriage a good thing. Where you'll be able to spend the rest of your life with someone you love. Getting to have kids.
Me: Getting your money drained like its nothing.
She: ........
Looks like I'll be single for life.....
*I like the 2 become 1 part, and not the money drained part*
Anyways, then we somehow came across this subject:
'Men usually have no say in marriage cause most women controls how the wedding is like'
In a way it is true but not for everyone. For most women (totally biased opinion on my side), they like to be in control of their weddings cause they will always have their own picture of their perfect wedding and therefore of course no other opinions will be acceptable to them except maybe one or two differences. And some would want their wedding so spectacularly grand, it'll kill the guy even at the mere thought of mentioning it.
For us men however, we are ok with anything because we just want the marriage to be over with quick. Not because of the after enjoyment a.k.a sex (not most of the time) but also we just can't bear to see so much money going down the drain in a matter of 2-3 days.
And so, we are usually the relaxed ones and women will be all stressed up. My point here is that, although most men would really want to help with the preparation of the marriage, women here do not trust us enough to even lay a hand into it because they think we'll screw it up.
And they say marriage is where 2 becomes 1....
Me: Marriage is overrated!
She: I find marriage a good thing. Where you'll be able to spend the rest of your life with someone you love. Getting to have kids.
Me: Getting your money drained like its nothing.
She: ........
Looks like I'll be single for life.....
*I like the 2 become 1 part, and not the money drained part*
Just like how v-day is overrated
3point8 - Yeah yeah!!!!
The financial income becomes 1 too =D unless of course you get a spouse who's not gonna let you anywhere near her bank account. Heh.
Yes! Marriage is overrated! You have to stay together by norms! In the case of live-in couples, you have the choice to leave! So there's more work to be done to maintain the relationship that way.
And yes. . .marriage is expensive *headdesk* this is funny, I sound like a guy myself
Oh btw, new blog! > http://ashyville.i.ph (no more coconuts!)
That day I was watching 'My Big Fat Wedding'
FUIYOOHHHHH!
I want something like their weddings. XD
One actually spent 2million US Dollars woot.
ash - Serious? Eh your layout blog design is so cool!!!!
chingy - chingy chingy, *tsk*tsk* I pity your future husband hahaha
mishalisha - Who say guys don't bother. We wanna help also girls tak bagi! But I said most girls, not all lol!!
Anyways, I was here lah.. You're the one that disappeared
at the end of the day, it boils down to money. if u hav the finances, everything would be ok.
as for ladies, they want everything to look beautiful la, younger days dreamt abt knight on a white horse so when it came to their own wedding, they try to live that fantasy
You're the next 40-year-old virgin, aren't you?
It's not so much as the woman celebrating a really big wedding, it's either one of the couple who wants to make a flamboyant statement. I've seen a guy on Oprah who planned his Arabian themed wedding, right down to the elephant up the aisle (Today, he's planning his daughter's wedding, who's only 3 years btw).
You're getting married and you want everybody to know about it. Your cousins, your friends, your neighbours, your boss in the CEO meeting board, your kindergarten friend you hadn't seen since... well, kindergarten and even that guy on at the bus station (whazisname? nevermind).
It's kind of a statement really, a cheer to Singledom that says nyah-nyah-I'm-getting-free-sex. Ask the guy who smacked his face on a billboard last V-day ago.
To the point, both men and woman have a sense of wanting more than just a wedding band to say "he's/she's mine". Weddings are the beginning, the lasting impression, the celebration for the excuse of having two sides of the family eat a lot of food.
Big weddings also had a dual purpose. Couple who take on weddings by signature will spend the rest of their honeymoon year (maybe even more) explaining how they met, about their future, how's the sex, yadayadayada and be stuck with said nosy person for hours.
Within a big wedding, all these redundant bridal gossip can run a fast course, between members, and the said couple can get the job done in 24 hours instead of 24 years.
Personally, I hate large weddings. I'm glad to see here that not all guys wants all that pomp and glamour. :D
having a perfect wedding is a woman's dream since young.
I do agree some women take it to the extreme and spoils the whole process but if the guy loves the woman, the wedding preparation in itself is a test for the relationship.